
On March 15, 2015, twelve years after Brad Paisley and Kimberly Williams disguised their Malibu wedding as a rehearsal dinner, Paisley turned the tables and surprised his wife with a vow renewal ceremony at a friend’s house.
To keep the secret while making sure she still had a bride’s wardrobe, Paisley contacted one of Williams’s closest friends ahead of time and asked her to pick out a new wedding dress in Williams’s size. He arranged the gathering himself between tour dates, bringing together their inner circle and their two young sons, eight-year-old Huck and five-year-old Jasper.
Rather than staging a formal affair, Paisley built what both later called a “really, really campy” celebration. When Williams stepped out for the traditional processional walk, the white dress her friend had chosen was translucent enough that her bright pink underwear showed straight through the fabric.
Standing in front of their children and friends, the couple traded new vows written for the twelve-year mark, mixing lasting commitments with jokes about the domestic habits they had picked up after more than a decade under the same roof.
For Williams, that afternoon of unguarded laughter arrived in the middle of a grueling family season. Months earlier, in an August 2014 essay for *Redbook*, she had publicly shared for the first time that her mother, Linda Payne Williams, was living with primary progressive aphasia, a rare form of frontotemporal dementia.
throughout 2015, while raising two boys in Franklin, Tennessee, Williams spent her mornings walking the family dogs before sitting down in her home office for a few hours at a time to write her memoir, *Where the Light Gets In: Losing My Mother Only to Find Her Again*. Whenever the memories became too heavy to stay at the desk, she stepped outside to take a break before returning to the manuscript.
In the book, Williams traced her mother’s illness back to the couple’s original March 2003 wedding at Pepperdine University, when Linda—a former journalist and major gifts fundraiser for the Michael J. Fox Foundation—stood before the congregation and stumbled through a ceremony reading. Diagnosed at age 61 in 2005, Linda had been embarrassed by her fading speech and changing behavior, asking her husband, Gurney, and their three children—Kimberly, Jay, and Ashley—to keep her condition hidden from the outside world.
For nearly ten years, the family honored that request and covered for her slips in public, once faking laughter at the front of a Starbucks line when Linda tried to order nachos. As the disease slowly took away her mother’s ability to speak, write, and recognize her own relatives, the strain of maintaining the secret sent Gurney to the hospital with a panic attack and pushed the family to arrange full-time memory care.
To make sure the memoir was honest about their mistakes as well as their survival, Williams emailed each finished chapter to her father for feedback. She also taped a handwritten note to her bathroom mirror referencing the idea that cracks are how the light gets in, using it as a daily reminder to write openly about her own impatience and grief during her mother’s decline.
All through those years of loss, Paisley kept a steady stream of humor inside their house, living by a personal motto Williams often quoted at dementia benefits: “If you can laugh about it one day, then why not start now?”
Published by Crown in April 2016 with a foreword by Michael J. Fox, *Where the Light Gets In* became a *New York Times* bestseller seven months before Linda died in November 2016 at age 73.
Twelve years after Linda struggled through her reading at Stauffer Chapel, her daughter and son-in-law stood in a friend’s living room with their two boys watching, turning a sheer white dress and a surprise march down the aisle into an afternoon of laughter in the middle of a long goodbye.