
When Miranda Lambert married New York City police officer Brendan McLoughlin on January 26, 2019, she also became a stepmother to his nearly three-month-old son, Landon, born just days after the couple first met in Times Square.
Watching how attentively the twenty-seven-year-old Staten Island native cared for his newborn boy convinced Lambert of the kind of partner he was, and she welcomed the infant into her life without hesitation. Determined never to pull McLoughlin away from his son’s earliest months, the thirty-five-year-old singer reorganized her calendar across two states, keeping an apartment in Manhattan so Brendan could stay close to Landon and maintain a cooperative bond with the boy’s mother while regularly bringing the baby south to her four-hundred-acre farm in Primm Springs, Tennessee.
Until that winter, Lambert’s daily routine had revolved around highway tour buses and a barn full of rescue animals. Back at her Tennessee log cabin farmhouse, she outfitted a room with a crib, baby supplies, and toys, trading her stage boots on free weekends for cotton clothes as she and Brendan walked Landon around the farm pond and introduced him to her miniature horses.
Speaking with reporters during CMA Fest in Nashville in June 2019, Lambert called her stepson an amazing baby and explained that splitting time between the farm and the city gave her family the best of both worlds.
That new domestic rhythm in early 2019 also prompted Lambert to shake up her recording life. Sitting on what she called the “magic porch” of her Tennessee farmhouse over a bottle of wine with Frank Liddell—the producer who had guided every one of her albums since 2005, including her raw 2016 post-divorce double album The Weight of These Wings—the two lifelong friends agreed she had reached a healthier chapter and needed a fresh studio spark.
With Liddell’s blessing, Lambert hired Nashville producer Jay Joyce, booking sessions at his studio, The Neon Church, in East Nashville. Having spent the previous three years singing through heartbreak, she told Joyce she was ready to let light and humor back into her catalog.
Her bi-coastal schedule with Brendan and infant Landon fed directly into the fourteen tracks she assembled for her November 2019 album, Wildcard. While staying in their New York apartment so Brendan could spend days with his son, Lambert took long walks in sneakers through Lower Manhattan and sat by the second-story window watching the city streets, details that anchored her song “Fire Escape”.
Back home in Tennessee, the peaceful rooms of her farmhouse inspired “Pretty Bitchin’,” which she co-wrote with Jon Randall, Luke Dick, and Natalie Hemby as an inventory of her blended home life, complete with thriving houseplants and good wine.
During a conversation with her tour bus driver about her marriage to McLoughlin, Lambert came up with a line asking whether she was settling up or settling down, pairing it with a description her mother, Bev, had always used for her personality. She brought those ideas into a writing room with Hemby and Dick shortly after her January wedding to craft the ballad “Settling Down,” capturing the pull between her life as a traveling musician and the comfort of waking up in her own kitchen.
Alongside Hemby and Dick, she also wrote “Bluebird,” turning a stanza from poet Charles Bukowski into a song about keeping a joyful spirit despite old bruises. Released as a single in the summer of 2019, “Bluebird” climbed to number one on the Billboard Country Airplay chart, giving Lambert her first solo chart-topper since 2012.
When it came time to release the follow-up single in 2020, McLoughlin—who had heard fans reacting to the songs while helping out on her Roadside Bars and Pink Guitars Tour—lobbied for “Settling Down”. Directed by Trey Fanjoy, the October 2020 music video was filmed right on the Primm Springs farm and featured McLoughlin alongside her horse Gibson and rescue dog Delta Dawn, marking the first time Lambert ever cast a romantic partner in one of her videos.
In March 2021, Wildcard won the Grammy Award for Best Country Album, with Lambert thanking her husband from the stage. For a singer who had originally bought those four hundred Tennessee acres to heal in solitude, the pastures that now held a crib, a retired city cop, and a visiting stepson had carried her straight into the brightest music of her thirties.