
In 1983, Robin Gibb spotted a 12th-century Oxfordshire estate in the pages of Country Life magazine and bought the place that would anchor his family for the rest of his life.
Known as The Prebendal in the market town of Thame, the historic property included a medieval gatehouse, a 13th-century chapel, and stone buildings where King Henry VIII and Anne Boleyn had reportedly stayed in 1533. After Gibb’s first marriage to Molly Hullis ended in 1980, he and Irish artist and writer Dwina Murphy moved onto the grounds with their newborn son, Robin-John, born on January 21, 1983.
The couple married on July 31, 1985, after first connecting when Gibb saw Murphy’s paintings and asked to meet her. Together, they spent years restoring the estate’s aging masonry and six acres of gardens, building a stone circle on the lawn and lining the old chapel walls with gold and platinum Bee Gees discs.
Inside the house, their daily routine worked because neither tried to control the other’s schedule. Murphy preferred painting late into the night, while the Bee Gees singer rarely walked into his home recording studio before two o’clock in the afternoon, often passing his wife in the hallway as she finished a canvas.
Those stone walls became Gibb’s refuge through two major family losses. When his younger brother Andy died in 1988 at age 30, and when his twin brother Maurice passed away unexpectedly in January 2003, Gibb retreated to Thame.
Following Maurice’s death, Gibb wanted to preserve his childhood memories of the Isle of Man, Manchester, and Australia. By 2008, he asked Murphy to interview him at home, recording hours of intimate audio tapes about his life and music so his family would always have his voice.
Outside Oxfordshire, British tabloids frequently focused on the couple’s open marriage. Murphy accepted that Gibb had other relationships as long as his loyalty remained at home, and he called her several times a day whenever he was away on tour.
That arrangement faced its hardest test in late 2008, when the family’s longtime housekeeper, Claire Yang, gave birth to Gibb’s daughter, Snow Robin. Hurt that the affair had happened under their own roof, Murphy chose to forgive him, kept their marriage intact, and agreed that he should support the child.
Around the same time, Gibb’s relationship with his son RJ—who had grown up taking piano, trumpet, and violin lessons before traveling on Bee Gees stadium tours—turned into a close creative partnership. Even after Gibb underwent emergency abdominal surgery in August 2010 and received a diagnosis of colon and liver cancer, father and son began composing The Titanic Requiem to mark the 100th anniversary of the ship’s sinking.
Because Gibb could not read traditional sheet music, he hummed vocal melodies and orchestral parts at The Prebendal while RJ arranged the scores and co-wrote the movements beside him. Between hospital treatments, Gibb recorded a vocal track for the piece called “Don’t Cry Alone,” a song about loss that Murphy privately felt was meant for her as much as the history of the ship.
When The Titanic Requiem premiered on April 10, 2012, at Central Hall Westminster with the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra, Gibb’s chair remained empty. Pneumonia had pushed him into a coma at the London Clinic, where doctors warned the family that he might not wake up.
Murphy moved into the hospital room and stayed beside his bed for more than a week, holding his hand, playing his music, and talking to him alongside RJ and Gibb’s older children, Spencer and Melissa. Against medical expectations, Gibb opened his eyes, giving the family one final month together before he passed away on May 20, 2012, at age 62, with Murphy holding his left hand and RJ holding his right.
After a horse-drawn carriage carried his glass-sided coffin through the streets of Thame that June, Murphy kept his studio at The Prebendal untouched while RJ moved into the lodge down the driveway with his own children, who still listen to the audio tapes their grandfather recorded in the house.